Inner Child Therapy

Inner Child Work

The past effects the present. When we come from a dysfunctional family, as an adult, the result is often feelings of low self worth, loneliness, and feelings of powerlessness in our own reactive responses. In personal and business situations that subconsciously trigger the family of origin, we can feel rage, sorrow, fear, helplessness and we do not understand why.

We naturally seek homeostasis, inner balance and harmony. Dysfunctional families are unbalanced emotionally and psychologically. When we are out of balance we naturally go to the opposite extreme to try and create harmony. The result is polarized behavior. This keeps us dissatisfied with our lives, our feelings and ourselves. If we do not resolve these issues, we will recreate the model of our family of origin in our business and in our personal lives and in the way we relate to other people.

“Healing the wounds of the past

We now know that coping by denial, discounting or forgetting painful experiences does not resolve trauma or the resulting, reactive responses. The mind has programmed the somatics, feelings, emotions and conclusions from these experiences. The body is prepared to respond immediately and unconsciously to a stimulus that is similar to the trauma. What starts as a sub conscious, survival program, too often results in illogical, immature or destructive behavior in adult life. We loose conscious choice because we no longer know what we really feel or want. Whole parts of who we are become locked into the trauma of the past.

The focus is on experiencing, releasing, recovering and healing your past. Instead of reacting to counter-productive patterns, fears, control needs and coping behaviors learned in the past, you can now learn to accept and trust yourself, creating synthesis, harmony and wholeness within. This makes it possible to deal confidently and comfortably with conflicts, authority figures and interactions with other people. Perhaps more important, healing the past expands your awareness of who you are and gives you freedom of choice so you can live dynamically in the present and consciously create the future you want